I didn't post yesterday because I was exhausted when I came home last night. I wanted to nap when I came home but I had a doctor appointment. Now I'm hungry because Chris's mom is cooking and it smells yummy, yet I have no idea what she made.
Chris and I hung out with some friends yesterday after I got out of work. It was fun, I was just extremely tired...
I've been looking up scene haircuts for Rikki, I'm cutting her hair on Friday, as well as Zoshia's bangs.
I was listening to the radio today and heard about an adoption law that's trying to be passed in New Jersey. The law is about letting adopted people, or parents of an adopted minor, get access to their original birth records to find out who their birth parents are. I believe they shouldn't, I mean would you really want to find out you were put up because you were the product of rape, or your mom was a druggie, or that your birth family didn't want you. What if your birth parents don't want to meet you, it was probably hard for them to put you up in the first place. I believe the law should allow access to health records, that should be kept up to date. You should only be able to find your birth parents if they want to meet you. they should put an option in the paper work about whether or not the birth parent would like to come in contact with the child in the future. When I found out that my grandfather adopted my dad I decided I don't really care if I ever meet his birth father, but I would be interested in medical records. Especially once I start having kids. A lot of times people go looking for their birth parents once they get some illness that is genetic/hereditary, if medical records are supplied they wouldn't have to disrupt their birth parents lives.
I know i just kind of stopped, my thoughts are a bit choppy right now. Side effect of tiredness...
~Peaches
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Since adoptee access to their OWN records does not affect you, please don't comment on what you obviously do not understand. Some adoptees do not care about their original records, many others DO CARE and are prevented from accessing those records. Any adoptee who doesn't want to know, doesn't have to request their records under the proposed bill. Right now, there is NO CHOICE in the matter. Also, wanting access to records does not equal a desire for reunion. So called "mutual consent registries" do not offer the adoptee knowledge without being open to contact. That's no choice at all. Add to that the very common issues of people not knowing that registries exist, of birthparents being deceased, of adoptees born in one state and adopted in another not being "eligible" to register, and most egregious of all - registries that often fail to match registrants (New York, for example).
ReplyDeleteCommon question - what about the birth parents? If you knew that upwards of 90% of birth parents WELCOME contact from their children, would that change your mind? I heard all the rhetoric about my mother not wanting me to find her, not being someone I'd care to know about, rejecting me, etc. Well - I found her this year. She (and her husband) had been waiting for me to find her for over 50 years. While she doesn't want EVERYBODY to know about me, she's very happy that finally the secret is out (in the family) and I'm in her life again. If I had listened to people like you...